C is for Chutiya ?? 

‘Chutiya’ – In the past one month, i would have heard this word over a thousand times. No kidding there with the number; so much so that I have to literally pull myself out of that ZONE. Well, in all honesty i am A TAMILIAN and i do not know HINDI and after 3 months associated with a few people, i decided i am better of knowing only what i know. Very recently i learnt that ‘Chutiya’ is the hindi word for Vagina. And according to some answers in quora, it means a cunthead which literally means a fool? Offensive much ?

I may sound naive and ignorant here but i do not understand the attraction, if i may call it that, of men calling each other vagina in all their regional languages !

I want to know why being called a vagina is an expletive !?  Does it mean you are as good as a vagina? As strong as a vagina? Resilient, maybe? Or as wanted as a vagina? Now there are other expletives,  this fucker, that fucker, mother fucker, behen chod aka sister fucker again because people think its morally wrong ? Then GoT should have more haters and moral policing ! I am digressing, that’s a story for a different day !  As a good friend pointed out, there is ofcourse “fucking good/bad”, aren’t they expletives too?  Yes, I guess. In all probablity maybe it is a person’s comparison to their own coitus which is their benchmark in life. I definitely feel sad if that’s the case.

So about chutiyas, the feminist in me is much more offended because you compare balls, which presumably is extremely sensitive, as power; and vagina which has a lot more resilience, as an expletive. When someone is going to say you have the balls, I think thats when people should feel ashamed. No? I don’t know !! But what i did realise is the influence of patriarchy even when one is swearing !! Most of the words that are commonly used to swear somehow has the feminine gender involved. it sickens me to know that body parts especially that of women should be used as profanity. It is hypocritical of a heterosexual man / woman to speak that way. Maybe people do talk about male genitals/gender too as a swear word and I am ignorant about it and in this case, ignorance is bliss !

I have sworn more than my fair share and I did not feel bad until yesterday. The constant use of derogatory terms gives a very negative, unhealthy environment to be in and that toxicity affects you. It definitely affected me ! And this post is a vent for me. I did my bit of research to search for the etymology of these words, google was not a lot of help. But, I did find out that fuck  actually has a germanic origin. Chutiya was very hard to find, but I found something on pussy, which pretty much is used the same way as that of chutiya. Click on the link here . What i couldn’t find  or understand as to why these words are used as derogatory terms. Many have the same question but not a clear answer.

At 5’2″ I always wonder how the world looks for tall people; It will always, always baffle me. Likewise, men calling each other chutiyas aka vagina because they are friendly or because they are annoyed and degrading women by making it an expletive will remain a mystery to me.

P.S : To whomsoever reading this post, if you are used to using expletives extensively, think for a minute if everyone around you are comfortable to hearing all that from you and if you are okay when others use them on you !

We are all called cultured for a reason !


I’m a woman…

Yes!! this post is a resonance of how sadomasochist a rapist can be. The government may ban the documentary, but its not the documentary that must be shunned. The government should be ashamed of itself for allowing such men to live long enough to speak whatever crap they need. YES, I agree that he was given the death penalty. Why is he still not dead??? Such ruthless, insenitive and a heartless swine should have died long ago.What is the use of him in jail, when he still feels he has not wronged. Why is he not castrated? There MIGHT BE THOUSANDS of others who rape and feel exactly the same way he did.WITHOUT ANY REMORSE. Is it not the government’s responsibility to instil the fear in them? To make those slimes atleast realise what wrong they have done! Leslee Udwin must have asked if he would have done the same thing to his mother or his daughter if she went out at night. Probably men like him would rape the mothers and sisters and daughters too. She is a girl too, and in his own words, she is responsible. Only the flesh matters. Does’nt it?

I am filled with nothing but rage to see the man still alive and is given a chance to speak so much filth. Does he think himself as a hero, because he is on television, because he brutally gang-raped a girl, because he forced himself on someone!?

A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy”, he said. Is she????So what does he have to say for the 3 year old and 4 year old getting raped? GIRLS are responsible, because they are girls. Aren’t they.

When being raped, she shouldn’t fight back. She should just be silent and allow the rape. Then they’d have dropped her off after ‘doing her’, and only hit the boy,” he said. 

To the government and all those who are responsible for the ban and those of you who said the BBC documentary has hurt India’s Pride!! Did the documentary hurt, or did this pervert’s shameless attitude did? Shouldn’t he be given punishment of the highest degree IMMEDIATELY?

A chill ran down my spine when I read this god damn article, especially when he continues saying “The death penalty will make things even more dangerous for girls. Now when they rape, they won’t leave the girl like we did. They will kill her. Before, they would rape and say, ‘Leave her, she won’t tell anyone.’ Now when they rape, especially the criminal types, they will just kill the girl. Death.”

So the goverment instead of instilling a fear among the rapists, has fed them enough to make sure that India remains unsafe forever.

BBC did not shame India, nor hurt India’s pride.Giving men like him time to be alive and not allowed to rot has hurt India’s pride.

I love India, I am a loyalist and a patriot.

More than that, I am a woman and I am scared to live in this country. I do not feel safe in my own country and I am scared to bring children into this world.

WE are harassed by men every single day, the ogling, the cat calls, the advantage they take because they have a dick, the dirty shit that comes out of their mouth EVERYWHERE. Is it not enough?? I feel ashamed to even say that a land which is supposed to be rich in culture and has forever hailed women has sunken knee deep in shit. One cannot see so many women deities as you see in India. We say SHAKTHI is a woman and still, every twenty minutes, a girl is raped in India. Is this the kind of statistics that we need?! Is the government not responsible for this. Doesn’t the goverment know justice delayed, is justice denied? WHy let THEM live?  Giving 33% or even 50% in the assembly wont change this attitude.

WE need to step out of the house without fear. WE need to NOT cringe because of men. WE need a safe place for our daughters. WE need to live rather than just survive. WE need to know that punishment in India will be severe for those who have wronged its women, and to top it all WE need a better India for women to LIVE

Bharath MAATHA ki jai!!